Living in the Shadow of Grief
People sometimes ask me if my blog has a specific focus or intent. My main intent is to walk alongside my readers, sharing my...
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haidecounsellor
Sep 115 min read
Brave
As children, we learn strategies to adapt to difficult situations and to keep ourselves safe. These strategies work.. until they don't..
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haidecounsellor
Aug 274 min read
Love, Loss, Pets
This blog post was originally planned to be about the bravery needed to feel and express emotions. That post will yet come at a later...
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haidecounsellor
Aug 15 min read
Assumptions: When A Hypothesis Runs Amok Without Proof
Sometimes things are not what they seem. My then good friend and I were heading to see a movie. We had been enjoying spending a lot of...
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haidecounsellor
Jul 56 min read
Empathy of Grief
Grief is one of those journeys none of us willingly chooses. Grief follows a loss. This can be a loss of someone we care about, someone...
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haidecounsellor
Jun 12 min read
A Different Point of View
How we see the world differs by where we're standing. Our elderly family dog, Oli, loves to go for walks. He particularly loves walks...
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haidecounsellor
May 83 min read
Mother's Day is Not Just a Hallmark Moment
Many days of celebration bring with it the potential of pain. Each of us brings our whole self to these days that are assumed to be days...
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haidecounsellor
Mar 174 min read
But What If I Cry?
“Dr. Kovitz looks at him over his notepad. Phil notices then the two boxes of tissues on the table. He wonders absently how many people...
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haidecounsellor
Mar 85 min read
Holding Regret Tenderly
“How to hold regret tenderly: I wish I would have done that differently, and, at the time I couldn’t.” ~ Syanna Ward It was a cozy winter...
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haidecounsellor
Feb 224 min read
"Curiosity Killed the Cat" and other Misnomers
Have you ever wondered where that expression comes from? As an immigrant child who learned English as a second language, I often miss the...
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haidecounsellor
Dec 314 min read
From Nothing to Something
The end of the year seems to lend itself well to a time of reflecting on what has been and what is to come. Yet research consistently...
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haidecounsellor
Dec 17, 20235 min read
The Importance of Stories
In his book "The Growing Season" Nelson Boschman writes: "When things are especially painful or difficult, and they've been that way a...
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haidecounsellor
Nov 11, 20233 min read
Body Memories and Hope: A Personal Reflection
Two weeks ago, my husband and I had the chance to spend two nights away in Victoria with good friends. We love spending time with these...
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haidecounsellor
Oct 25, 20233 min read
The Importance of Being Heard
I love the quote by Karen Salmansohn of NotSalmon.com. She states that: "Sometimes you just need to talk about something - not to get...
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haidecounsellor
Oct 19, 20231 min read
Lower Mainland, BC: Support Through Current Events in Gaza
Thanks to a fellow counsellor who has put together this list of resources for those impacted and struggling with the current events in...
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haidecounsellor
Oct 12, 20232 min read
Mental Health Day
October 10th has been proclaimed Mental Health Day in British Columbia, Canada. Mental health awareness is growing in our society, and...
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haidecounsellor
Oct 10, 20236 min read
My Journey With Obesity
This post is adapted from a post I wrote on my personal social media blog during the summer of 2023. As a counsellor, my sessions are for...
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haidecounsellor
Oct 2, 20236 min read
My Approach to Counselling
Background: As a Master's students in a counselling psychology program, we were encouraged to do the work ourselves that we would be...
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haidecounsellor
Sep 13, 20233 min read
Having Difficult Conversations Well
I would venture to guess that most people do not enjoy having difficult conversations. I don't love them myself! But sometimes, because...
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haidecounsellor
Sep 7, 20233 min read
Why do counselling? And how do I choose a counsellor?
Why should I consider doing counselling? There are lots of different reasons people seek out counselling. Some people may be facing a...
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